Sexual Problems and how hypnosis can help
Eric Erectile Dysfunction
Eric came to see me as he had a problem with keeping an erection. It probably sounds amusing that at the time he saw me he was seeing not one woman but three women and could not maintain an errection for any length of time.
It was anything but funny for Eric as the only reason he was with 3 women was because he was hoping that one would help him with his problem of erectile dysfunction.
He had been separated from his wife for 2 years and had had a particularly bad breakup with her and still had a lot of feelings for her. Obviously Eric had to find a way to fade away those feelings which were interfering with his sex life with other partners. He was also on anti depressants of which some definitely interfere with the physical process of getting and maintaining an erection.
So keeping in mind the medication that Eric was on we still had that grey matter between his ears that we could influence via hypnotic suggestions with his permission. Teaching him how to physically relax with breathing and visualisation was key as was accepting his marriage break up and reminding and reinforcing his confidence as a man and especially sexually. Again this is done via visualisation, regression back to being sexually free and liberated and future projection seeing himself as very sexually competent. Of course choice of language becomes important and as you can imagine i will use whatever words and images that work for Eric.
I work out the suggestions with the client that are going to work for him or her and then I bundle them up and put them in the hypnosis and there after the client is in “trance” they can be presented and accepted by the subconscious mind.” Hypnosis works brilliantly with repetition so Eric receives the recorded session I give him and listens to that for a minimum of 31 days. You are reprogramming your brain your thoughts and putting in a good helpful belief.
Along with the hypnosis the client’s medical history is taken and examined and of course good nutrition, good sleep habits and god exercise routines are an essential part of the clients sexual recovery. Any anxiety is also addressed and other holistic therapies recommended like Yoga and meditation.
Eric saw me for 3 sessions of hypnosis and at last report was reporting very good progress and experiencing sustaining erections a lot of the time. Importantly he now had the ongoing hypnosis recordings and strategies to help him in this area.
How hypnosis & hypnotherapy can help treat sexual problems
Enabling open and honest communication
Improving body image
Improving balance of relationship
Acceptance of any past events
Removal of negative emotions surrounding sex e.g guilt, fear, performance anxiety, pressure
Isolating root cause
Shifting patterns of past behaviour
Improve self belief, self confidence and self esteem
Hypnosis has been used extensively for sexual issues such as impotence and premature ejaculation and mismatch of sex drives for both men and women and has had many proven results. Much of the recovery program is to do with the visualisation and relaxation techniques which are used in hypnosis and again targeting the sub- conscious mind where the negative beliefs and doubts reside is the key to obtaining good results.
Cathy is a mature person with much life experience and has been married for 25 years for a second time and knows full well the challenges on all levels a relationship can bring if one partner suffers a lack of sexual desire or erectile dysfunction. We do know that that mind is very powerful and that we do need to ‘Get in the Mood ” Hypnosis can get you in the mood for both men and women. Hypnosis can greatly assist men and women who have issues with their sexual drive or any discomforfort around any sexual barriers, body issues or problems with fantasies they may have.
Cathy is happy to work with people of all sexual persuasion.
According to the City Hypnotherapy Centre in London, 10 percent of men experience erectile dysfunction, also known as impotence. The condition can involve a total inability to achieve an erection or happen inconsistently or for only a few minutes. Hypnosis can help some men with this problem, but only if a physiological cause isn’t present, according to the Health Care Center, an Internet guide for health issues.
When impotence has a psychological cause, it can be the result of one small thought locked away in the subconscious, according to the City Hypnotherapy Centre. Hypnosis can help find and identify that thought and either eliminate it or change your reaction to it.
According to the website Erectile-Dysfunction-Facts-You-Need-to-Know, clinical hypnosis has three approaches. One works on the belief that the human mind is capable of using imagery to bring about desired results. Another method focuses on the power of suggestion. It integrates into your mind alternative responses to how you previously reacted when you were unable to perform. Erectile-Dysfunction-Facts-You-Need-to-Know.com suggests that this is a more successful approach. Finally, hypnosis can potentially unearth the hidden feelings, thoughts or memories that may be causing your problem in the first place. This method is considered the most successful.
Erectile-Dysfunction-Facts-You-Need-to-Know.com cites two studies that support the success of hypnotherapy for impotence. The Scandinavian Journal of Urology and Nephrology found that 75 percent of the men in its study experienced improvement after hypnotherapy. The British Journal of Urology reported the same result when no physiological cause was responsible for the problem
The causes of sexual difficulties can be physical, psychological, or both. Sexual difficulties can develop gradually over time or they may occur suddenly. They can develop after an individual has previously experienced enjoyable and satisfying sex or begin early in a person’s life, The problem can be a total or partial inability to participate in one or more stages of the sexual act.
Emotional factors affecting sex include psychological problems within the individual (sexual fears or guilt, depression or past sexual trauma) and/or interpersonal problems (such as marital or relationship problems, or lack of trust and open communication between partners).
There are generally 4 categories of sexual difficulty: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual pain disorders.
For both men and women, these conditions may appear as an aversion to, and avoidance of, sexual contact with a partner. In men, there may be partial or complete failure to attain or maintain an erection, or a lack of sexual excitement and pleasure in sexual activity, or premature ejaculation.
There may be medical causes for these disorders, such as decreased blood flow or lack of vaginal lubrication. Chronic disease may also contribute, as well as the nature of the relationship between partners.
Sexual pain disorders affect women almost exclusively, and are known as dyspareunia (painful intercourse) and vaginismus (an involuntary spasm of the muscles of the vaginal wall that interferes with intercourse). Dyspareunia may be caused by insufficient lubrication (vaginal dryness) in women.
Poor lubrication may result from insufficient excitement and stimulation, or from hormonal changes caused by menopause, pregnancy, or breast-feeding. Irritation from contraceptive creams and foams may also cause dryness, as can fear and/or anxiety about sex.
It is unclear exactly what causes vaginismus, but it is thought that past sexual trauma or negative sexual associations can pay a role, however this is not exclusive.
Symptoms, Men or Women:
Lack of interest or desire in sex (loss of libido)
Pain with intercourse (much less common in men than women)
Symptoms for Men :
Inability to attain an erection
Inability to maintain an erection adequately for intercourse
Delay or absence of ejaculation, despite adequate stimulation
Inability to control timing of ejaculation
Symptoms For Women:
Inability to relax vaginal muscles enough to allow intercourse Inadequate vaginal lubrication preceding and during intercourse
Inability to attain orgasm
It is important that physical factors are ruled out before commencing treatment with hypnotherapy
Physical factors contributing to sexual problems include:
Hormonal deficiencies (low testosterone, estrogen, or androgens)
Some birth defects Endocrine disorders (thyroid, pituitary, or adrenal gland problems)
Injuries to the back
Problems with an enlarged prostate gland
Problems with blood supply
Nerve damage (as in spinal cord injuries)
Drugs (alcohol, nicotine, narcotics, stimulants, antihypertensives, antihistamines, and some psychotherapeutic drugs)